No two people experience a divorce the same way, but most can agree that it’s an extremely painful and difficult situation, both mentally and physically. Though you’ll be busy filling out legal paperwork with your attorney, it’s essential to pay attention to your mind and body: Research shows that divorce can take a serious toll on everything from your sleep habits to your heart (no surprise there). Knowing about the following conditions will allow you to take charge of your health and do everything you can to prevent them from developing. Anxiety “Typically, after a divorce anxiety levels shoot sky high,” says Fran Walfish, PsyD, a psychotherapist in Beverly Hills and an expert panelist on the upcoming television series Sex Box. “You don’t have a companion in the big, bad world anymore,” she says, and the future that you once pictured no longer exists. Plus, there’s a ton of uncertainty, which can lead to feeling insecure. Depending on the circumstances, you might suddenly have to move, get a new job, and survive on less money than before. Your children might need to change schools or get used to a back-and-forth arrangement with you and your ex. Walfish says that anxiety can sometimes manifest itself in controlling behavior, such as sending a gazillion emails to your divorce attorney or emptying your joint bank account to try to take over the finances. MORE: 5 Ways To Love Your Life After Divorce Drastic Weight Change Gaining or losing a significant amount of weight is something else you might notice during or after a divorce. Some people turn to comfort foods because doughnuts or fried chicken might temporarily perk them up. For others, divorce has the opposite effect. “I had a patient walk in after a long absence. She was very slim, and I remarked upon it. She said, ‘Yep, I’m getting a divorce. I call it the Grief Diet,’ " says Walfish. “She lost her appetite. Sometimes you can’t eat when you’re distraught.” Metabolic Syndrome Metabolic syndrome occurs when you have several dangerous conditions at once, including high blood pressure, high blood sugar, excess belly fat, and high cholesterol. It increases your risk for heart disease, stroke, and diabetes. A study published in Archives of Internal Medicine found that women who are divorced (as well as women who are widowed or in unhappy marriages) are more likely to develop metabolic syndrome than women who are in happy marriages. Depression Photo by WIN Initiative/Getty Images After a marriage dissolves, “many people feel like failures,” says Walfish. What contributed to the divorce may also play a role. For instance, if your spouse cheated on you, that knowledge might send you into a downward spiral of hopelessness and destroy your self-confidence. “I really and truly believe that this is the pivotal moment in life where it’s beneficial to seek out a good therapist,” says Walfish. For one thing, it helps to gain support from someone who is emotionally removed from the situation. This is also your chance to discover why you were drawn to the relationship in the first place—and learn how to avoid a similar situation. “It’s a golden opportunity to write a new, brighter script for the next chapter in your life,” says Walfish. (Take our quiz to help determine if you might be depressed.) Cardiovascular Disease A study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family found that both middle-aged men and women are at a higher risk of developing cardiovascular disease after going through a divorce, compared with married people of the same age. It also revealed that middle-aged women who get divorced are more likely to develop cardiovascular disease than middle-aged men who get divorced. Why do women have it worse? Here’s one explanation: Research shows that the stress of divorce leads to higher levels of inflammation in women, and those levels persist for some time, explains Mark D. Hayward, professor of sociology at the University of Texas at Austin. “Part of the reason for the continued elevation in women is that the period after divorce is highly stressful, too. Women often take bigger hits in terms of finances, and they tend to stay single longer than men.” MORE: 9 Ways Therapists Can Tell If Your Relationship Won’t Work Substance Abuse Photo by Phil Ashley Post-split, you might find yourself becoming more dependent on cigarettes, alcohol, or drugs to cope with feeling lonely, anxious, or depressed. One 2012 review of scientific literature published in The Journal of Men’s Health found that divorced men have higher rates of substance abuse, as well as higher rates of mortality, depression, and lack of social support, compared with married men. The stress you feel from a divorce is second only to the stress you feel from the death of a spouse, explains study co-author Dave Robinson, PhD, director of the Marriage and Family Therapy Program at Utah State University. “And men are more likely to ignore the significant impact that divorce has on them.” Insomnia “In my divorced clients, sleep disruption is very common, as well as nightmares,” says Walfish. This might mean having trouble falling or staying asleep. According to the National Sleep Foundation, insomnia is very common among those who are depressed, so divorce-related depression is one possible underlying cause of the sleep issues. Be sure to follow these tips to sleep better every night. Chronic Health Problems & Mobility Issues Many health consequences of divorce are linked. For example, it can be harder to eat well and exercise regularly if you’re feeling depressed and not sleeping well. And those unhealthy habits can lead to serious diseases and conditions. A study published in Journal of Health and Social Behavior found that divorced or widowed people have 20% more chronic health conditions (such as heart disease, diabetes, and cancer) than people who are married. They also have 23% more mobility limitations, such as not being able to climb stairs or walk a block. Consider this one more reason to make sure you get a physical each year. MORE: 11 Early Warning Signs Of Divorce Most People Miss
